Supermom

I hate labeling.  

Moreover,  I hate being labeled.  Even if the label is supposed to be a compliment. 

Like: S U P E R M O M.

I tell you why:

1. Being labeled Supermom means someone is superior compare to other moms, and some are inferior. That there has been competition between moms.  Stop that!! Being a mom is NOT a competition. It's never meant to be.
2. No mom is super. No school is the best. We just need to be the most suitable mom to our kids need.
3. Being super, means there are targets that you need to hold on to. That will turn us to be a vicious perfectionist mom that your kids will surely hate.
4. Your kids are not/may not want to be Superkids. If your kids perform less that expected, or less than other kids, or less than his/her own cousins, or even less that his/her own siblings, it's okay too. It's NOT an indication of your performance. Stop being too baper about that (baper = bawa perasaan).
5. Even the best mom sometimes fail. We just don't fret about it. Suck it up and walk on. (okay, I admit I still fret about it on my other blog, I just keep everything as draft. May be until someone wants to publish my writings and then I got a lot of money from writing. #wishfulthinking)
6. If your kids can do things on their own without you, you have succeeded.
7. It's okay NOT to be a mom. It's okay if you decided not to have kids. It's okay if you cannot have kids. It's not a failure. And don't judge. You don't know how much pain and humiliation that they already received.

Anyway, quoting dear wife of a friend of mine who just put her daughter to college halfway across the globe: "Every parent's goal is to make themselves obsolete" - Elliyawati Djendrono